I came home today afer a great day with my boys- we had been out shopping and playing and I was so proud of the little pink shoes I bought today for the baby girl inside of me. I felt good and happy and a little content, to be honest. I sat down at the computer and checked my e-mail and there in the in-box was the name Sherry Bonelli. I have had no contact with her since she sent me the two line e-mail suggesting that I get a karyotype if the baby's chroromosomes-which sent me into a fury of stress and worry. It was a day that was full of tears for my unborn baby that I love with all my heart already.
And so I opened it hoping that she was going to speak from her heart and see me as a concerned mother and say she was sorry for causing me such stress and worry- because we all know she is reading this site because she posted her own thoughts on it and it is a way for her to see what people are saying about this product that she sells. So I know she knows how her e-mail impacted me.......anyway, this was not the case.
The e-mail was short, but the first thing she did was make me feel bad for posting an e-mail that she had sent me on the detail and accuracy of the test. She said it mad her "sad" that I would post a private e-mail from me on an internet site. Sad! I was depressed for weeks about her suggestion, and still worry every day about my baby. And to think that I posted it to help others.I thought it would mean more comming directly from her rather than me re-telling the e-mail. And then she tried to make me feel bad for getting upset over the e-mail saying that the lab only made that suggestion because I was so concerned and that they didn't even have to make that suggestion- suggesting that they were so nice to send me into a panic. If the lab was and is concerned and have suggestions then they should (in my opinion) share them:
A. with me-they should not be discussing my lab results and suggestions for me and my baby with the president of a pregnancy web site.
B. with tact- giving me reasons to do such a test with as much information that they can provide while being sensitive to the impact of this news.
C. Understand that no reasonable OB physician would risk an amnio when there is no clinical reason to do so, not to mention the fact that insurance would never cover it- Reason for Amnio: Sherry Bonelli, the president of a pregnancy web site sent my patient an e-mail suggesting it. So the chances of this test actually being performed are slim to none- leaving the mother to be again, frustrated and worried.
But, she did wish me and my family all the best........