Danielle's Experience with Baby Gender Mentor

Danielle is a mother of two boys, and used Acu-Gen's Baby Gender Mentor test to learn whether her third baby, due in December 2005, is a boy or a girl.

The Fourth ultrasound

Well, I was so excited for today and nervous as well- I was sure that this little girl inside of me was going to have grown a penis and this time we were going to see it. (I am still in denial, I guess!)  But, No- this baby has no penis and no testes and clearly has the genital appearance of a baby girl.  I was joyful and tearful because a little girl would just be wonderful- actually I can just picture her completing our family. I am so close with my mom and I have longed to share that relationship with a daughter of my own.  I must admit that I was also angry- so angry because as much as I believe that this baby is a girl and as much as my family and friends believe this baby is a girl and as much as my OB practice believes this baby is a girl- Accu Gen and the Baby Gender Mentor results still loom around me. They hover over me like a black cloud. I will buy the bedding and call her by name and enjoy this time that I have left. Accu-Gen and the Baby Gender Mentor Test have already robbed me of so much of my pregnancy- filling it with doubt and confusion and worry over the health of my baby.  They have taken so much more than my money, but I am not sure they realize that.  If you are reading this, Sherry Bonelli, please remember that I am just a concerned mother who loves and wants to protect her heart and her family.  I am not a statistic, but a real person who has shed many tears since ordering the Baby Gender Mentor Test. For me it has not been worth it and I speak for me alone.  If I had conducted this pregnancy as I had the other two ( without the blood test) I would be happy and joyous as I planned for our baby girl, and at the very worst the doctor would have handed me a baby boy and it would have been love at first sight anyway- because when they hand you that baby- your baby- it's the only one you want anyway. I will be writing more and posting my ultrasound pictures too- please let me know what you think after seeing them.

Comments

 

mandy said:

Danielle- I'm no expert, but I think you can safely assume that your little precious one is a girl. I don't see anything that remotely looks like boy parts. After seeing your u/s pics. mine looks definitely like a boy to me. Again- I'm no expert! Good luck and congratulations. I'll try to print these and take them to work with me so some of the u/s techs can take a peek as well if you would like! Let me know! Mandy
September 13, 2005 8:50 AM
 

daisy girl said:

Mandy,
Take them and show them to as many people as you want- the more opinions the merrier! I have two little boys here at home and the ultrasound photos of them do not look like this at all- they are obviously boys. I mean, they have an obvious part between their legs! My ultrasound tech said without hesitation that they were boys and she says without hesitation that this is a girl, but nothing is 100%. But she has never been wrong to date and so I am going to believe her. When are you due again?
September 13, 2005 11:55 AM
 

hunkersmommie said:

That is a GIRL baby in you. I would bet all my money on that. They better give you 200% money back too when that baby is born!

Just only makes me wonder more about BGM...:( I was told I am having a girl, so now I am wondering how true they are. My U/S is Oct. 4th, so I will know then I guess.
September 13, 2005 12:17 PM
 

mandy said:

Danielle- i'm due new years eve. i'll take your pics this weekend and ask them what they think. i'm betting they'll say girl too!! i would try and forget what acu-gen told you your results were. enjoy your pregnancy- i'm kind of glad my results were different both times because that shows the test can be wrong. in some strange way it makes me feel better! i've been trying to get to the private mess. section on this site for awhile because i was trying to email you and a couple of other girls, but for some reason it is disabled. if maureen will send you my email address please email me and i'll send you my u/s and you can tell me what you think. then we can keep in touch directly because like you i feel like we're all family now.
September 13, 2005 1:22 PM
 

Roxanne said:

Congratulations, Danielle! That looks like a baby girl to me. :)

I find out on September 22nd if BGM is right or wrong in my case. I want them to be right, just because I want the girl they say I'm having, but I no longer feel confident in their testing. I hate the fact that I wasted my money on that test, and I hope that all of the women who have been given the wrong information will quickly put that operation out of business. (Of course, Danielle, this is AFTER they refund you for the tests you paid for!)

Go shopping for some pink things for me! :)
September 13, 2005 1:52 PM
 

daisy girl said:

Mandy,
Plese feel free to get my direct e-mail from Maureen. I woudld love to keep dirct tabs on you and your pregnancy. It sounds like we are really close to having the same due date- my baby is actually due Jan 10th, but will be here about two weeks early ( a scheduled c-section this time). I, hate it for you, but I am also glad that your results were different- that it can happen- they are not perfect. I just wish they would admit that! Anyway, get my e-mail and send me your pictures- I want you to see my boys ultrasound pictures too-just to compare. Take care and thanks for caring! Danielle
September 13, 2005 4:21 PM
 

daisy girl said:

Dear hunkersmommie,
Let us know what your ultrasound says- I hope for your sake that it the same as what the BGM test said. I would never wish this craziness on anyone- it has been so hard on the heart! Good luck and keep us posted! Danielle
September 13, 2005 4:24 PM
 

daisy girl said:

Roxanne,
If you want the girl then I hope with all my heart that you get her! I hope for your sake that the ultrasound clearly confirms that the baby is a girl so you don't have the black cloud of doubt hanging over your precious pregnancy. Keep us posted- we are all in this together! Danielle
September 13, 2005 4:28 PM
 

daisy girl said:

Megan, I am so sorry that you are going through this- I really am. It is so emotionally draining- they have no idea what they are doing to us. My goal is to help pregnany woman understand that they should consider the possibility that their accu-Gen test and their ultrasound(s) can say different things. I know that I did not even consider this a possibility when I took the test- if I had, I would have thought long and hard about it and more than likely never would have taken it. Please keep us posted we are all dying to know the outcome of these precious babies! Again, from the bottom of my heart, I am sorry.
Danielle
September 14, 2005 6:38 PM
 

Linda said:

If you've seen me post here a few times, i was doing research on the test, because they told me "girl", yet we tried Shettles for a boy. I just kept having this weird nagging feeling that the test was wrong for me. I took it at 8 weeks along. I'll admit when i got the girl result, i cried for days, longing for that baby boy we supposedly wouldn't have. Though we would welcome another baby girl, or a baby of either sex, we still had our hopes set really high that this one would be a boy. Well, i came across more and more wrong results. Finally, after hearing 2 heartbeats on my doppler, i visited my ob the other day and he did an in-office u/s. Well, there was only 1 baby, beautiful profile and little feet kicking. But when he scrolled underneath to get a view of the backside, with the legs hanging down. Me and my husband and ob were in shock at what we were seeing. In clear view was the scrotum with no lines, hanging down between the legs, with what appeared to be a small bullet-shape in between. I keep running it over and over in my head, and keep asking dh if he saw it, and he gets tired of me asking. lol But it was right there in plain view. My ob i think, was also excited, and moved the big u/s up to October 13th. He said he was passing me onto his tech, which has never been wrong before on genders. Since then, i've been looking at several boy u/s's in comparison, and literally driving myself crazy second guessing because of what that test said, and then again, what we actually saw. I don't think it's fair if i got false girl results, and cried for 3 days straight at the lost hopes for a boy, when in fact it could very well be our boy. The test has done nothing but stress me out. Unfortunately my ob's u/s printer was broken, so i didn't get a copy, but i'm getting one on Oct. 13th, and i'll keep you all updated. My ob said that although it's science based, it's not had enough clinical trials to be 100% accurate. If it was, then think about how many labs would be offering it? And he said to beware of anything being sold over the net, that allows you to do lab servicing at home. He said what about the fetal cells that don't cross the placenta? Or what about fetal cells that stay around from previous pg's? He said there has to be more research done, and that's why at this time, it can't replace amnio or cvs. He shook his head at the test, especially after the u/s. Well, that's my news for now. I am happy but still i can't get my hopes too high, only because of that stupid test. I want to sooo badly believe what i saw, but it's still hard, because in the back of my mind i still see those "girl" results from acu gen. :(
September 19, 2005 9:20 PM
 

daisy girl said:

Linda, Again, I am so sorry you are going through this! All I can say is that it is all right to keep your hope for a boy because this test test has some limitations- only time will tell with the births of all these babies though. If you send me a private e-mail on this site, I would be more than happy to send you my two boys ultrasound pictures just to compare with yours also there is a web site called pregnancyabout.com ( I think) or maybe it is aboutpregnancy.com- either way if your search for it you will find it and on this site are tons of ultrasound pics of boys and girls to compare with. Good Luck and please keep us posted! Love, Danielle
September 20, 2005 5:41 AM
 

Linda said:

Thanks Danielle. Oh believe me, i've been researching tons of u/s's, to compare with what we saw. And i've also been in touch with Mandy here, since she also had a girl result, but u/s shows boy. So far, all the u/s's I see in comparison, looks identical to what we saw. It's so frustrating to want to believe something, yet have a test result running through your mind. The 2 things that me and Mandy have in common, is that we both take anti-depressants. And i don't know if previously having a girl might affect the results. I've contacted acu-gen, and they have not replied to me. So frustrating! And i can't believe how many wrong results i'm seeing. Your baby is 100% a girl!! How could they deny that? in your case, your u/s is more than enough proof, than waiting on the birth. It's probably hard for you to believe, too, because of the test. I would say to feel confident in buying pink, if you haven't already. I'll email you for your boy's u/s pics, to compare. And i'll come back here and post mine, when i get them in 3 weeks.

Take care,
Linda.
September 20, 2005 4:53 PM
 

Linda said:

Oops....Danielle, i meant to put that me and CGates are both taking antidepressants; (accidentally said Mandy)...CGates is another lady on here, like me and Mandy...that was told girl, but u/s shows boy. There are so many with wrong results, sometimes it's hard to keep up with who's who. I really feel for the new lady on the board, who posted today in the BGM forum, about finding out she's really having a boy, after Acu-gen said girl. She was really hoping for a girl this time. I think it's so sad how this test keeps deceiving moms. I'm glad i didn't make any baby purchases, based upon my test results. That would have sucked.
September 22, 2005 11:31 AM
 

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