I am so thrilled to have found the in-gender website. I have never thought that I could conceive a girl, but now I have hope!
I am the mother of three beautiful loving boys and the wife to a wonderful man who is devoted to his family. We were high school sweeties - met when I was in grade 10 and he was in grade 11. We were friends for almost a year before we became a couple, then four years after that, we were married.
I was working on my Office Administration degree when we got married so that I could have a decent job for dh to be able to attend his post secondary education shortly after we got married. It worked out wonderfully...three and a half years after our wedding, dh graduated; and two months later, we were blessed with our first child - Daniel, born by c/s and a whopping 9 lbs 7 oz.
When Daniel was six months old, we got a BIG surprise...a late period. I was so scared to take an hpt because I was afraid it would be positive. After about three weeks of denying the obvious, I took the test. We were pregnant again! My pregnancy was *so* different I was positive it would be a little girl. Well, my sweet Joshua was born by c/s a few days before his due date, a full pound lighter than his big brother.
Two kids in 15.5 months was tough in the beginning. We moved across the country when Josh was only 11 days old, then lived with my parents for 3 months. It was stressful and hard, and I think it made everything harder than it had to be. I was sick with gall bladder problems and dehydration and it was all around icky.
When Josh was around 18 months old we decided we would have a third child. We planned to have 3 "practice" cycles where we did some of the Shettles girl stuff, got used to it and good at it, then we'd give it a real go after we were confident. So, cycle one we gave ourselves plenty of time before my usual ovulation day (cd 20). I had started looking into the Preconception Gender Diet and Shettles at the same time. I had dh take hot showers before dtd. Well, guess what! We found out we were pregnant a few weeks later. It turned out that I had ovulated on day 11 that cycle, not day 20 as planned. We dtd on cd12 and caught that eggie somehow. Nine months later, our adorable little Andrew joined the family, the smallest baby yet, at 8 lbs 6 oz.
Andrew was the only pregnancy that we found out the gender of our baby through ultrasound. I acted happy when the tech told us, though I felt my heart dropping through the table onto the floor. I LOVE having boys, but I thought SURELY I would not be the one to have three boys in a row.
For the past year or so now, I have been going back and forth on my decision to have another child. I had always wanted four children. I even kind of decided when I was young that I'd have a boy first, then boy/girl twins, then a girl to finish up. LOL I never imagined I'd have the same gender over and over and over. But I have three boys. And I've pretty much decided and settled on the idea that I will have four boys.
I try not to think of the fact that I'll never get to do the mother-daughter stuff, and instead focus on the teenage years, when I am a great strong woman who has raised compassionate boys who love me unconditionally and are heading out to be strong caring men who will love their families the same way. I try not to think of always being the mother-in-law and being turned away from my grandchildren by my daughters-in-law. That is what breaks my heart most of all.
I don't think my dh understands this at all. He has two brothers and no sisters. His brother has two sons and no daughters. There are no girls anywhere and that makes him scared to have a daughter. I know that a daughter would just melt him, but he still maintains that he loves his boys and having a girl would not be practical financially, and a girl would not fit into the family. I think a girl is exactly what this family needs. My four year old agrees with me - he has been begging for a sister for a couple of years (he actually was quite upset when Andrew came out a boy...).
So, that's me all caught up to now. I am a thinker and there is always so much running through my head. I hope to be able to dump a lot of it here, in this blog.
Let my journey to a daughter begin!